When To Separate, or Call It Quits
So, when people ask, “when is it time to divorce,” we answer, “when you’ve prayed and tried everything you can to save the marriage and it remains abusive, toxic or dangerous”.
We fight for love, marriage and families. But we do not believe that a divorce is the unpardonable sin. If you are in a marriage where there is active addiction, active pathology (toxic narcissism, sociopathy or psychopathy), active emotional, verbal, physical or financial violence, an in-home separation is not advised. Physical separation to protect the stable spouse and children is recommended. The issues above are corrosive to the health and well-being of all in the home – sometimes lethal. We acknowledge that both genders are capable of being the stable or unstable spouse.
When considering divorce, we recommend consulting your spiritual leader (only if they are not oppressive in their stance towards women and children, or biased toward either gender), seek counsel with respected elders in your community, and with legal counsel before beginning a formal divorce.